tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post9094422037553336651..comments2023-08-25T06:00:48.685-07:00Comments on Grandma Susan's Blog Spot: If Ever I start to feel betterSusanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00149370319672974708noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-9477731725316336312010-03-29T16:59:39.855-07:002010-03-29T16:59:39.855-07:00Maybe we could compromise and do quarterly parties...Maybe we could compromise and do quarterly parties? I have a lot of friends that have even bigger families than ours and they take turns planning activities, rather than parties. They usually meet at a park or reserve a community building or church. Then they have game nights, murder mysteries, dances, silly contests, etc. Just fun things but the parties are a little more structured and planned so that there is something for everyone to do. I agree that the family parties are loud and big and sometimes stressful, and I would be okay doing away with them, but it is the only time that I get to see everyone. Small dinner parties would mean I'd get to see every one just a couple times a year, and that is too long!! So quarterly parties (the dinner parties still sound like a great idea) where one person plans/coordinates the meal (like Kris said) and when we can we meet at a park or outside.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00815467991368145244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-38418354251453306022010-03-27T18:07:11.447-07:002010-03-27T18:07:11.447-07:00I guess I need to add my thoughts as well. I thin...I guess I need to add my thoughts as well. I think mom loves to give gifts, I think it is one of her main love languages and I don't want to take that away from her...and I think for $15 she can be pretty creative. If mom doesn't mind foregoing gifts altogether, then that's fine with me, although I'd rather get something small and filled with love, then nothing at all. Grandma got CHEAP gifts, like from the dollar store cheap. Mom is not like that. Cute clothes, dvds, cd's, all kinds of things, even gift cards come in $10 and $15 denominations.<br />I am with mom, Ira, and Melinda on the crazy group gatherings. As much as I like to see everyone, it gets to be a bit much. Some people are not able to tune things out easily and it makes for a very stressful evening for them. <br />If there were some way we could keep the kids quiet and learn to have conversations as a group rather than 5 at once, then maybe it could work, but I don't see that happening- old habits die hard.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10902560173599172280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-14610273166824960892010-03-27T17:19:38.240-07:002010-03-27T17:19:38.240-07:00I don't know if this will come as much of a su...I don't know if this will come as much of a surprise, but I agree with Melinda. My family, got together on big holidays and I feel like we treasured the time more. My mother always said that if you have Ice Cream every night it's not a TREAT anymore. My family and I have really enjoyed the smaller get togethers, being able to talk without shouting or interruptions. Susan you know how I feel. I really enjoyed our talk last month. I really never thought that it could ever happen, but I feel like we got a lot accomplished face to face with love and respect. You really have no idea how happy I was with your visit.Irahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17204038429693931869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-78067757834236743392010-03-23T21:20:34.733-07:002010-03-23T21:20:34.733-07:00I'm fine with foregoing birthday gifts for adu...I'm fine with foregoing birthday gifts for adults completely. I gave up on birthdays many years before I joined the Willdens, and I am perfectly happy without anything special for my birthday.<br /><br />I get a little overwhelmed at the whole-family gatherings when the weather keeps everyone indoors. I prefer smaller groups because then you can actually have a conversation. I like the big gatherings on major holidays (like Christmas, Easter, the 4th of July parade). But I have no desire to host a whole-family party, unless we meet at the park near our house. I like the idea of having a couple families get together at a time. Don't get me wrong - I love you all, and I do enjoy seeing everyone at the same time, but I like smaller groups better.Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17206795794626086675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-12947781548708635462010-03-22T13:22:00.694-07:002010-03-22T13:22:00.694-07:00I agree with Kris as far as presents go. Cash is ...I agree with Kris as far as presents go. Cash is always good, too. That way you won't have to worry about buying anything.<br /><br />We don't want the big family get togethers to go away either (even though the small dinners sound fun, but we don't want you to get too stressed out). Even though the big parties can get loud and crazy sometimes, it's good to see everyone. We don't get together every month so we can take turns on what we bring, etc. I am glad Kris volunteered their place because it's just the right size and we can send kiddo's down to the basement or outside if it gets too crazy. (I wish I had a basement!)<br /><br />As far as the Easter thing goes, Kelly has to work that Saturday. So it will be just twinners and I at Grandpa's.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12270909451018175976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506084420293255661.post-30219902832654019632010-03-22T10:39:33.923-07:002010-03-22T10:39:33.923-07:00Well here are our thoughts. First We don't mi...Well here are our thoughts. First We don't mind foregoing gifts. Not to be rude, but there is little to nothing that you can get for 10-15 dollars, unless it is just cash. We would rather go without than get a "cheap," not cheap gift. I can't help but think of some of the things Grandma got us, and we loved the thought, but we never kept a one because they were mostly garbage. And that just ends up being a waste of money anyway. Homemade is something else, and has a lot more value to it. <br /><br />As for getting together, in our family we all love the big noisy get together. The kids all commented, as well as Shawn, that they don't want them to end. It is usually the only time we get to see the rest of the family. <br /><br />One of the things we do in the Crittenden family to cut down on the work for one person, is we each take turns hosting it. Once it is at Mom's, then Lill's, Alicyn's, Char's and My house. The person who is hosting is in charge of the menu and assigns as evenly as possible the things to be brought. They also provide all the paper goods. That way everyone gets a turn helping out with the cost and also the meals are divided up. Some of the things we have eaten are taco's were everyone brings something to put on the taco. Another is loaded baked potatoes, and also a Bring your own meat, with the rest divvied out. Sometimes because of time schedules it is just ice-cream and cake.<br /><br />Also if the space is the issue, I don't mind people coming to my house. We would rather see the whole family at birthday's and holidays than only a few times a year. As it is we haven't seen any of the family since Christmas, (unless they came to open meeting for Makae) and we really miss them. <br /><br />We don't mind just coming over with the family once in a while to visit and it being small, but we really don't want to see the family parties go away.<br />I told Shawn he should write this, but he says I have been in the family about as long as Kecia and Kelly so I can say my piece!Kristannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09686048809682128395noreply@blogger.com